John came home and saw a note on the kitchen table that said “Honey, I am really upset because you forgot to make the bed. Please try harder!” John wrinkled up the note and threw it on the floor. Jenny had been nagging at him for years to be better at picking up after himself and keeping their home tidy. John felt ‘mothered’ and started resenting her. Continue reading ““DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF” YES or NO?”
Judy was wondering why her husband had become so quiet. After ’rounding the bases’ with him using our small group class she found out the answer to her question. “Honey, I have felt really down lately. When I come home after feeling the stress of my job, you often greet me at the door with a long list of things I need to do or haven’t done. I am feeling like I’m on an island all alone and there is no relief in sight.”
THE RELATIONAL MAN
Take the quiz and see if you are a relational man….or not. We think ‘RELATIONSHIPS’ are what move mountains. Often many distractions get in the way of a well-intentioned man. He may mean well but for many reasons he falls short at being relational to his family, his co-workers, his neighbors or his friends. He soon finds himself falling into ‘ruts’ that can be costly.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE WORK
The bottom line, relationships are work but they are also crucial for us to succeed at any level.
“What is it about him, he constantly leaves his shoes on and walks all over the house” she retorted. “What is it about her, she constantly rides me to CLEAN…..CLEAN….CLEAN…..” he responded.
Sanguine | Choleric | Melancholy | Phlegmatic
Which one are you? What are these monstrosities? How does your personality impact your marriage?
Psalm 34:17 The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them, he delivers them from all their troubles.
Chris was working hard to keep up with his kid’s sports schedules. His wife Amy was exhausted as they were both heading in different directions every weekend between basketball, soccer and swimming. Their children were trying out many different sports, some they were excellent at, others not so much.
Continue reading “MARRIAGE OVER CHILDREN”
I was speaking to a very powerful business man about his marriage troubles. He said “My wife doesn’t listen to anything I have to say and my kids do whatever they want so I just gave up” “Give me some examples” I replied. “My kids don’t want to go to church with me and I want to sell my Mercedes to buy a cheaper car
Getting separated from your spouse can be the “kiss of death” regarding your marriage.
“Matt, can you help me figure out what is going on with my wife?” Bob said with a tremble in his voice. He and Sandy were married for 24 years with three children.
“What’s going on?” I asked. Bob gave me a very familiar response. His wife had gone COLD just like a block of ice. As he was sharing I was thinking ALERT, ALERT, ALERT as if we were inside a war room and witnessed the enemy launching nuclear missiles towards our land. Bob didn’t see the threat. He was calm and collected. He thought it was simply a ‘phase’ they were going through. Continue reading “3 SIGNS A MARRIAGE IS IN TROUBLE”
I wish I would have counted how many times I heard someone tell me “God wants me to divorce my spouse”.
When I first heard a man tell me this, I was shocked. “Really, please tell me more” I asked. He proceeded to unveil his twisted tale as my suspicions grew even stronger. His reasoning had so many holes in it even a child detective could have proven him guilty of ignorance and narcissism.