Take the quiz and see if you are a relational man….or not. We think ‘RELATIONSHIPS’ are what move mountains. Often many distractions get in the way of a well-intentioned man. He may mean well but for many reasons he falls short at being relational to his family, his co-workers, his neighbors or his friends. He soon finds himself falling into ‘ruts’ that can be costly.

The bottom line, relationships are work but they are also crucial for us to succeed at any level.

Are you too tired to ‘connect’ with your wife or kids when you get off work?

Do you prioritize ‘your’ hobbies over your family when you get time off?

Do you stress over money too much?

Do you work too much in order to keep up with the demands of your life?

If you are honest, do you have deep insecurities as to your performance as a husband, father, friend or brother?

Do you struggle with simply being lazy and choosing to do nothing rather than engaging in relationship development?

The only way to really determine your relational IQ is to quiz those around you. On a scale of 1-10 how would they rate you in that department?

ME: Sometimes I get a high grade but often in my life I would flunk the quiz. I am guilty of all the shortcomings mentioned above. Eventually, I grappled with it and decided to ‘INVEST’ in others. The payoff is amazing.

YOU: Sometimes it takes a bucket of ice water to be unleashed on your head to ‘wake up’ and see the truth. As irritating as it may be….it’s often the only thing that works for a man. Maybe this BLOG is that bucket of ICE WATER.



Hebrews 10:23 Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. 24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

According to this passage, we need each other desperately for encouragement, to spur each other on and to be spurred on.
I am successful BECAUSE OF those surrounding me.

There will be no other group of people that can give you more than the family of Christ. I was deeply touched last weekend when my sister-in-law (Heather) had a million things to do in preparing for 20 or more people to come over to her house for lunch. She walked into her house that was full of people and said “Hey, I just invited this man from my fitness center and a few of his family members to join us. His wife died a few days ago and I want everyone to love on him.”

The man came into her home and was loved on during this time by so many strangers. I watched everyone greet him as if he was a longtime friend. It was awesome. That’s what the gospel is all about. If you are ‘dry’ relationally, submerse your life into the family of Christ. God will quench your thirst through his people.

Relationships move mountains.

God can give you the strength to love others when you are exhausted. HE can fill you up when you have nothing to give. God is in the business of people.

One time I was volunteering at a juvenile center with 20 boys. I was faithful in my commitments and never was late. Every night I was there teaching the boys about God. One night I had to work late, I had a pounding headache. I was feeling horrible. I picked up the phone to cancel my normal meeting with the boys. As soon as i picked up the phone I felt God’s tap on my shoulder…”What are you doing?” he said. …”but God, I have a headache and I’m so tired”…i replied.

He reminded me of HIS power, strength and presence in my life. I hung up the phone and quickly went to the center. As I walked in, the boys were all lined up wearing their suits and ties. Standing in formation. Silent.

I walked slowly between the two formed lines the boys had carefully created and asked them “Hey guys…what’s going on?”

“We did this for you Matt, for all you do for us we decided to put on our best clothes and stand here waiting for your arrival.” As they shared their honor and love for me, i wept.

WOW. I would have missed that had I not been committed to the relationship I had created with these boys.

MY HEADACHE…..was gone. God really showed me his power that night.

Lean on HIM.
Trust HIM.

Relationships matter.
Be different.

Matt and Pam

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