MAKE LAUGHTER A RAINBOW IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Storms will blow in, it’s unavoidable. Laughter in your marriage is very similar to a rainbow appearing after a storm. God has a sense of humor. If you don’t believe me take a good look at how ‘different’ your spouse is from you. Yikes! Now that’s funny.
While describing his day after work, he uses three words and turns on the television. She uses 4000 words to describe the conversation she had with the checkout clerk at the grocery store. Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Both and neither.
There are three secrets to creating a rainbow in your marriage.
Secret Number One: Have fun by going on a date.
Walk in the park, go out to dinner, play a sport, hold hands, play Yahtzee but by all means, GO ON A DATE.
Many couples give up dating after marriage. “I’m too busy, too tired, can’t afford it, can’t leave the kids, don’t like going out, just want to vedge” and the list goes on and on.
Don’t forget, the most important relationship on this earth will be the one between you and your spouse. Everybody else moves away or dies. (just kidding but not really)
When you do go on a date….have fun. Between storms, it’s like a rainbow showing up making life normal and enjoyable, till the next storm.
There is very little record of “fun/humor” in the bible.
Solomon did his best to show us how to be romantic: and funny.
Song Of Solomon Chapter 4
1 How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful! Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Mount Gilead.
2 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,
coming up from the washing. Each has its twin;
not one of them is alone. 4 Your neck is like the tower of David,
Sorry, I find Solomon’s poetic advances to his maiden to be very humorous, what would Pam think if I said “Your hair is like a flock of goats and your teeth are all there…none are missing. By the way, your neck is long like a tower.”? I’d be missing a few of my own teeth.
In those days, it was relevant. Not today. I want to give you both an assignment.
Write down what a “perfect date” would look like to you.
Write down ten ideas for a great date. Make sure some are really focused on what you want, not just what your partner wants. Swap your lists and begin scheduling a date night from your partner’s list. It’s guaranteed to hit their target when it’s your turn, they will hit your target.
Lastly, NEVER become angry at your partner for not scheduling a date because that will demotivate them. Your anger pushes them in the opposite direction of your desire. Instead, just take charge and schedule a date night. Tell them, “I really miss you and want to spend a night doing something fun.” Chances are, they will join you with a great attitude.
When the time is right, ask them to schedule a date night and take charge but for a while, you may be the only one taking the lead. Make that ok, for a while.
Create more rainbows between storms and you just may fall in love again, and again.
Pam and I continue to pray for you all.
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