Great negotiator! Great marriage!

Negotiating may seem easy. You might think you’re great at it. Screen Shot 2014-11-13 at 7.58.12 AMThe truth is, you may be horrible and don’t even know it. The best way to find out if you are good at negotiating is to simply ask your spouse. Brace yourself for the answer.

Negotiating requires a specific environment in order for it to happen and happen well. The problem with most marriages is what I call “selfish” communication. We are very selfish in the way that we talk to each other. Interrupting, negative body language, rolling of the eyes, shaking of the head are all signs of  “selfish” communicating.

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How to propose to your future spouse

Screen Shot 2014-10-31 at 9.04.12 AM Proposing to your boyfriend or girlfriend can create a lot of anxiety. Do you go ‘all out’? Do you keep it  private? Will they say yes? Do you talk to her parents first? So many questions, so many options. I found that proposing to Pam, I was VERY anxiety stricken as I took her shopping and carefully found out what kind of a ring she wanted. I asked many questions and found out how the proposal was to be set up in a way that SHE would like which was quiet and secluded with no extra bells and whistles. Continue reading “How to propose to your future spouse”

“Living together” before marriage…. Yes or No?


 When Christian couples decide to move in together.

Living together before marriage is becoming more and more popular. Many good-willed people with great intentions are feeling more  and more “comfortable” living together before marriage. Why? Because everybody is doing it. Maybe it isn’t you, but rather a child or grandchild who is planning on living together prior to marriage. What do you say or do when the world around them is shouting, do it? Marriage mentors across the country are faced with this as they try to help couples prepare for marriage, God’s way. In an effort to give couples biblical guidelines to assess their risk of divorce (prior to marriage) we encourage them to use a tool called, Continue reading ““Living together” before marriage…. Yes or No?”

Looking in the mirror can save your marriage!

Looking in the mirror helps us see the ‘real’ us. Until we look closely at our own hearts, we cannot expect ‘real’ change in our marriages. It is scary, difficult and often the largest challenge you will ever face……looking deep into a mirror.

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Sacred Marriage – Recommended Book

Marriage is an important issue in the Christian life. Vast numbers of books and marriage counseling resources are dedicated to the subject of marriage preparation and improving communication in marriage. This list compiles a wealth of marriage resources from the leading Christian books on the subject of marriage. Continue reading “Sacred Marriage – Recommended Book”

The Truth About Falling In Love

Falling in love is easy. It’s the staying in love part that is difficult. The emotions involved with falling in love can make you feel like you’re on top of the world. However, that giddy, heart-skipping-a-beat sort of love doesn’t last forever. Without taking steps to acquire a mature love, you can fall out of love just as easily as you fell in love.

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